However, when those emotions come up during a collaborative four-way, I'm far more challenged because those emotions could kill the collaborative process. I cannot use them to my client's advantage and I definitely cannot ignore them. Those very powerful emotions must be dealt with -- and that is not easy.
I also see my clients struggle at time with honoring the collaborative way. Not surprisingly, doing the right things is oftentimes MUCH harder than doing the thing you really want -- which is to throw some mud out of pain, anger or resent.
Yesterday, even though it was a difficult session, both clients signed their divorce papers. They did so without going to court, and their children knew very little about the whole process. Very little "blood" was shed between these devoted parents. Our clients had spent a fraction of what they normally would on attorneys fees. That was their choice, one I fully support.
Tears were shed, but the proverbial blood wasn't...We did the right thing. That was really hard, but worth every second of it. I'm proud of our clients and of my collaborative colleague. Nonetheless, buyer beware, this ain't for sissies. Are you up to it? If so, welcome to the collaborative kitchen.
If you are interested in using the collaborative process to get through your divorce without an expensive and drawn-out fight in court, contact us at Childs & Childs at (559) 225-6769 to set up a consultation. Collaborative law is not right for everyone, but our collaborative attorneys, Erin Rhames-Childs and Jerry Childs, can help you determine whether collaborative law is right for you.
Erin Rhames-Childs and Jerry Childs are also Fresno divorce litigation attorneys who provide services for divorce, child custody, child support, spousal support, adoptions, guardianships, grandparent rights, domestic partnerships, and domestic violence restraining orders. Childs & Childs is proud to work throughout the Central Valley including cities like Fresno, Madera, Clovis, Kingsburg, Reedley, Selma, Tulare, Hanford, Visalia, Merced, Modesto and Coalinga.
Visit us on the web at http://www.childsandchilds.com/ to learn more about your options and to see a better way to move forward in your life.
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